Thursday, July 15, 2010

Choosing a School for Jack

Monday I submitted an application and yesterday I toured a school that I am very much hoping that Jack will be attending this fall.



If you told me two weeks ago that I would be enrolling Jack into a private school, I would have told you that you were crazy!  I don't know where my head has been, though I suspect it has something to do with not realizing how much time is passing and how this last child of mine is growing up.

The four children that I have already raised, all went to Parochial Schools and then Private High Schools.  After years on end of driving to all these different schools, car pooling and what not I was just SO done!

When Jack was born , my plan was not to go that route.  I was going to put him on a bus at the corner and have the easy life, and I guess that's what hit me last week.  I was making important decisions for Jack  based on me not having to drive him to school every day.  I wasn't doing what "I" thought was best for him, I was doing what I thought was best and easiest for me.  It took a conversation with one of my daughter in laws to jostle me out of this fog!

This is one of the hardest things I've found with having another child after having already gone through all of these things.  You have the advantage/disadvantage of hind sight.  You can say to yourself, did this thing I did with my children really matter?  Did it have an effect on who they became and are they better for it?  Of course, you don't really have that answer, since this isn't a movie like "Sliding Doors" where you can see two parallel Universes with different life altering decisions played out side by side.  So I ask questions.   I talked to my daughter who went to a Sacred Heart High School and knows many people who went to this very school I am enrolling Jack in.  I respect her and her thoughts and knowledge on the subject and my talks with her were probably the most influential.

I also talked with a neighbor who's children went to this school, just to get her "hind site" as well.  So decision made.  It's not easy making life altering decisions for my children, but I guess that's my job. I just hope it's a good decision for him.  I still have an interview to do with the Head of School, and then Jack will have a screening on Aug. 4th.  Since he just turned 5 in May, and Missouri's cut of date is July 1, (the earliest in the country) I'm having him screened for Pre-K as this is where I think he should start unless the screening shows otherwise.

Just as a mention...I'm a bit dramatic about these sort of decisions, things other people never give a second thought to. I never want to imply that I think one choice is better than another. The things I write about here are just what's important to me and in no way a blanket view of the world or what I think other people should do. I love the fact that we all do have choices though.

I would like to write more about this school in the future.  The incredible history, the scent of old books and old wood...it takes me back to a simpler time of losing my own self  in an old library as a child.  I wish I had gone to this school....

13 comments:

  1. It looks like a beautiful school! Just think of all the exciting things that await through those doors :-)

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  2. I know this place. Wonderful decision, Sheree. No kids there, but have heard good things.

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  3. Thank you Pat, I appreciate your feedback! (And I thought you might know this place..*g*)

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  4. It is exciting isn't it? I so want him to love school and all the fun stuff that comes with it!

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  5. I'm sure whatever you decide will be the right thing. You said yourself you realized you were making a decision that was best for you and talked to other people about it! Altered your way of thinking.

    He'll know, that no matter what you do, when he grows up he will know that you struggled with every decision you made because you love him, and that's all that matters I think.

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  6. Letting go of the last one is very hard, but I can see a great future coming to him in this school...

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  7. I think your right Penny. btw...your comments always make me "think", in a good way of course!

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  8. Deanna, it is hard. I thought it was hard with Peter when I thought he was my last one, but something about this guy seems to make every decision, every new adventure so "heart tugging", almost like time is slipping away...

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  9. Oh Sheree! I understand, as a mama, the decisions we have to make as we see fit for our babies. Everyone (almost) has their own opinions, good or bad. Just do what feels right for you and Jack. I wish that I had put my daughter in private school. Not because public is bad (her school is tops in our area) but because of the student/teacher ratio. Don't second guess yourself! :) You are doing the right thing, whatever your choice is!
    BIG hug! Amber

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  10. Right Amber, same thing here. The schools are not bad, but the student to teacher ratio is very low in this Private School. It just seems logical to me that it would make a difference.

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  11. It is such a hard thing choosing a school. There is no perfect school for everyone but there is such thing as the right school for each child depending on what their personality and needs are. As his mum you are the best person to help find that school for him. I'm so glad you have such a good gut feeling about this one. That is half the battle!

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  12. Good Morning Gina!
    You know, with him being so young, I'm not sure I know his needs yet so gut feeling is about all I have to go on! Guess I better hope I'm in tune! :)

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  13. I know what you mean about the driving. Both of my boys are in private school and it does get tiring. It is nice to have the time to talk with them while they are captive in the car and hopefully after all is said and done it will have been worth it. I think it will!

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